“How do you know those people?”
The worst thing in the world is to go unnoticed. I play a bad guy in my professional wrestling career. I love it. My friends often ask me if it bothers me that everyone hates me. I love it. The opposite of love is indifference. I love to be hated. One day I’ll become a good guy and I’ll enjoy getting cheered.
Where’s this all leading to? Becoming the life of the party.
My friends will sometimes ask me about how I know those the people. The explanation is usually as simple as me having said hello two minutes earlier.
If you’re nervous, lack confidence, want to boost your confidence, or are just plain confused, this article is for you. I wish someone wrote me this article back in 2005. I want to show you how to become the life of the party even if you don’t feel so good about yourself right now.
How do you become the life of the party?
USE THE SMILE TECHNIQUE.
What is this?
- When in doubt, smile.
- Smile when you meet someone.
- Smile when you’re nervous.
- Smile when you see someone you find attractive.
- Smile for no reason.
- Smile when you greet someone.
- Smile when someone insults you or puts you down (they really hate this one!).
Have you ever seen anyone bash the guy smiling and having a good time? Nope. That’s the guy everyone wants to be around. That’s the person you want to become.
Workout before you go out.
Seriously. Get into the habit of working out. Train before you head out so that you’re feeling pumped.
Get in shape so that people don’t push you around. Put some size on so that you feel bigger. Take off a few pounds so that you can put on that tight shirt. Take some MMA classes so that you’re confident enough to know that you won’t get bullied around.
Staying in shape will do wonders for your attitude and your confidence.
You feel on top of the world after a solid training session. You’re confidence is through the roof, you look sexy, and are ready to tackle anything. After eating pizza or loading up on crap, you don’t feel like doing anything. I’ve been there way too many times. I load up on crappy food and then I feel useless. I don’t want to go out or do anything.
Just by staying on top of your workouts, you’re going to naturally feel better. You’re going to go out more and feel amazing.
[Side note: don’t cross the line! Nobody likes the self-centered jerk. I’ve been there before. Don’t brag about your workout when you’re out. Nobody cares.]
You’re always smiling after a workout (once you shower and eat).
Listen to what people have to say. Don’t monopolize every conversation. Don’t tell everyone about yourself. Don’t get excited about bragging about your most recent accomplishment.
You’re going to be smiling while you listen too.
Ask people what they do. Ask them if they caught the game. Ask them if their single and if they enjoy it. Ask questions. Everyone LOVES talking about themselves. Let them.
“Is that what I wore?”
I asked a girlfriend this once when looking back at pictures from a trip. I couldn’t believe what I wore. I’m no style expert. I’ve been working on this over the years though.
This is very superficial, but most of us need to dress better. This tip actually goes a long way. While I totally agree that uniforms don’t win games, you can’t let yourself go either.
How do you dress better?
- Don’t listen to a dude online.
- Ask the store staff to put together an outfit for you.
- Try out different outfits until you feel confident.
Everyone’s going to smile when they see how well you’re dressed.
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When you’re bloated you feel like crap. When you eat like crap, you feel horrible. You are what you eat.
As tempting as it is to grab some Burger King or pizza on the way to the bar, it does you no good.
Watch out with the booze.
Alright, I know. You’re not going to stop drinking. Neither am I! I love getting wasted.
You really do have to watch out with how much you drink though. Some of us just can’t handle our drinks.
For example, a buddy came down to visit from out of town recently. After a few beers, he was out of his mind. He made a fool out of himself. This sucks for everyone involved. You have to worry about babysitting. You have to worry about getting kicked out.
Don’t make a damn fool out of yourself. Watch how much you drink, champ. You don’t need all that liquid courage, do you?
Take your frustrations out at the gym.
You notice the trend here?
Seriously, tough guys, this is for you. Go to an MMA class at your local gym. Spar with that old dude who could pass as your fat uncle. See what happens. It’s humbling. I attend kick boxing classes when I want to take out my frustrations. I never ever want to get into a fight at the bar.
Never go out when you’re pissed off. Go to the gym. Or have sex. Sex helps everything. You’ve never seen a dude pissed off after sex.
Don’t try to pick everyone up.
This is what causes trouble.
Don’t be the sleazebag that tries to pick everyone up.
As foolish as this sounds, you’re more likely to meet someone when you’re not trying to pick up. Girls have a radar for this stuff. They can smell your desperation. It’s scary.
Talk to everyone. Just don’t try to pick them up.
Just say hello.
“I just came to say hello…”
Remember that song?
Just say hello. Open your mouth. Stop being a coward. Introduce yourself.
There’s no such thing as a good pick up line. Don’t stress about question openers. Just open your mouth and say something. Talk and have fun.
If someone doesn’t want to talk to you, then it’s their loss.
If your friends laugh, you should laugh at them for being losers.
You’re just having a great time.
Are you ready to have a great night out, every single night? You bet your ass you are. Just smile. You got this.